I swear thinking of titles suck on here!! I will get one and never ever stick to it, so I really should find one and use it from here on out. Right I will do that then come up will all sorts of catchy ones, so okay each day I will sit here and think and think and think. I spend more time thinking of a title than I do writing anything.
Dang the rain, it so needs to stop, I have to get the deck stained and the railings painted. I started staining Saturday as it was beautiful out. Yesterday I got outside late due to playing catch up on my sleep!!! Got going pretty good and sure enough felt a raindrop. Well the first raindrop I feel I have to stop, get mama in, then go pick up brushes etc. Yeah with a 91 yr old to care for “hurry” just doesn’t fit in the vocabulary any more.
Speaking of mama, yikes, I almost had one mama on the floor the other day. From my counter to her recliner is oh about 5 steps for you and I, but for mama it must seem like a mile. I have a good hold on her on one side, and she hangs onto the recliner with her other hand. I count and have her take steps to get to the chair. It’s an ordeal but she does pretty good most of the time. Well the other day I was counting, she was moving her feet, got beside the chair and decided it was time to sit down. Yeah ever try to hold someone when they want to sit??? I mean it’s like dead weight when she stops moving. I think she was merely inches from the floor and I hollered to Bryce. He was there so fast it would make your head spin. He had ahold of mama under her arms and lifted her up and over the arm of the chair and got her in it. Whew!!!! I can’t lift her like that, so if she had gone down, well I would have sat on the floor with her until Bryce came to help. I swear she gravitates to the floor, no kidding.
So now I am very nervous about moving her from the counter to her recliner, and when I am alone, I think I will put her in the wheelchair. Seems like alot of work, get her in the chair, take 5 steps and get her out of the chair, but it will be much safer for her.
Our bathroom is small but handy. I get the wheelchair in as far as it will go, help mama stand up, then move the chair out, while holding mama with one hand. Yesterday she was standing and I opened the door to grab the chair, and she starts leaning the opposite way, knees buckled and she is swaying. Yikes again. I grabbed her around the waist to hold her up, and hubby heard me holler and he was there in a flash, helped me get her in the chair and he brought her out here while I caught my breath. The fear of her falling is getting worse everyday for me. I thought I was strong but when I jerk or try to lift, it causes tons of pain in my foot and leg, and I guess I weaken too. Damn it’s like the blind leading the blind huh?
We do have a hoyer lift in the garage and I think soon it will be in the house. Mama so hates it, and also is afraid of it, but for her safety I think I will have to start using it. I have to make sure I don’t hurt myself cause I need to care for her. She has “chicken legs” and a big torso so she is like top heavy. No I am not making fun of her, it’s her build and that build makes her heavy. Then there’s the fact I believe she actually forgets how to walk, hence the counting when I do have her walk. Her mind, poor baby, it’s just gone. That dementia has robbed her of it and it’s just not right. But we deal with it, roll with it and do all we can to see that she is healthy and happy in her world.
Sad but she didn’t even know Kelly was gone. Actually did she even know Kelly is her granddaughter? Yeah that’s the question of the day, I don’t think so. But Kelly was great and she too “rolled” with it. Haha except a few things. I told Kelly she will need “Peggy 101” next time, hahaha. Some things are set in stone!!! Like turning on mama’s tv, the light in her room, and getting her nightgown and supplies in the bathroom at 9:30pm SHARP, tee hee. Or how to have mama put her legs down flat when we stop at McDonald’s so her food doesn’t slide all over the place. Showing mama how to hold the cup from McDonald’s with the hot fudge sundae. Lots of little things so yeah I will give out lessons!! 🙂
Seriously Kelly, to you a huge THANK YOU!!! Your help with mama was totally awesome and your help around here the same. You gave me a little vacation by doing so much, and there’s not enough thanks in the world for you. The two of us made it easy to get mama in and out of the car too, and you lifting that wheelchair in and out, a huge break for me. Can you come back and just stay forever??? PLEASE!!!! 🙂
Life in general around here is caring for mama and making sure she is safe. Then you know the same ol crap. The mountain range of laundry, the floors, counters, cooking etc. I can’t remember ever having to say I am bored!!!! Nope never, not around this crazy house. Heck just keeping track of who works when will keep boredom at bay. Ron with his schedule, Bryce with his and Ashley. Oh geeze she is the worst to keep track of. Band, flute lessons, classes, rehearsals, shows, work yeah I never know what is up with that one.
But from 10:15pm on it’s FUN TIME BOWLING!!!! That truly is my salvation from the everyday care I give mama. I love bowling and it takes all the tension away. I mean I can be falling asleep on the couch but come bowling time, wide awake, same with hubby.
I love my life though and I thank God everyday for the opportunity to care for mama and the rest of the family. Although hubby and the twins care alot for me, help me when they are here. I am thankful we can put gas in the vehicles and food on the table. I know some can’t do that with the price of gas now. I am thankful for the internet and still able to afford it, as it’s my lifeline to the world, and it’s helped me make alot of friends in the blogging world. I am thankful hubby has a good job and steady pay check with no fear of lay offs. So much I am thankful for and it sums up to life in general. I have no complaints and if I did what kind of person would I be??? There are so many struggling just to eat or put gas in their cars, I have no right to complain about anything. Well except this damn rain we are going to have all week. Come on summer, I need sunshine and hot temperatures!!! Where is that dang switch to turn the rain off and turn the sunshine on??? Anyone have any idea????