Well Bryce had a good meeting with the Air Force recruiter yesterday and right now as I am writing this he is on his way down to take his ASVAB test. If he gets the score needed, his job will be linguistics. He wants to learn Japanese and be an interpreter.
Next will be drug test, physical and then a few months of learning things, and leave in January for basic training in San Antonio, Texas. Beautiful city and I spent alot of time there when hubby was hospitalized.
Bryce is “flying high” so to speak but Ashley ( his twin sister) ohhhhhhhh having one heck of a time accepting the entire enlistment idea. She is almost to the point of devastation and I do feel bad for her. The kids are so darn close and have never been apart. They live off each other I think. But all they have been through in their lives of course has managed to bring them that close. They have overcome so much and did it together.
Last night, well around 12:30am when Ashley got home from work, she headed right into Bryce’s room to “talk.” She told us she wants to make sure Bryce is making the right decision, doesn’t want to see him go, hates the idea of not seeing him everyday, etc.
This morning Bryce told us he had a long talk with her and he’s hoping she can accept it better now, but said he still has alot more re-assuring to do with her.
It’s like breaking up a set and of course it’s going to be hard on all of us. I tried to step into Ashley’s shoes and tried to relate to her feelings on this. I can’t to be honest with you. For starters I didn’t have the rough childhood they did, and two I am not a twin. The kids have overcome so much and at times have only had each other to rely on, so yeah I am sure it’s extremely difficult to know it’s time for them to go their separate ways.
Funny though all these years I always thought it would be Ashley that would break away, not Bryce. She has always been the mature one, the go getter etc. Guess that goes to show you just never know. Bryce has grown and matured by leaps and bounds since he got out of the”Meaghan” relationship, and I feel he knows what he is doing right now. I know it’s a good decision and it will give him a great start on life. I am sure he can eventually get Ashley to see that too. Hubby and I have talked to her but we know it’s not the same. Coming from Bryce is so much better.
Mikayla, our granddaughter that lives in Idaho is upset. She told her mom she doesn’t know what to do when she stays here next summer and Bryce won’t be here. Can you tell our grandchildren are close?? Oh yeah all four of them are and to me it’s great. It’s sorta sad to know that the time is here, two of the grandkids are adults now, oh my!!!! Things change, one will leave, the three left will be sad, but in the long run, their love for each other will help overcome any sadness. Life goes on huh?
Will I have the “empty nest syndrome?” You bet I will but also I will know there’s one that is going to make a good life for himself. Ashley is on the road to making her career happen and then I will have to go through another leaving, YIKES.
I used to kid around and tell them my retirement days will start when they are out and on their own, but wow , I don’t want that now. I ( we) have raised these kids and have taken them to a new level, and look, now I am not liking it. Crazy jumble of emotions have taken over my mind, that’s for sure. Grandpa is in a different sort of mood. He is very proud, yes even though it’s Air Force and not the Army, haha, but he is also wondering what life is going to be like without Bryce here with us. Oh we gripe alot cause Bryce isn’t doing this that and the other thing, but you all know love for your family overcomes all that. Grandpa tried to talk to Ashley but kind of choked up a bit so he stopped. Come departure day for Bryce there will be a bunch of blubbering idiots in this house, I all ready know that!!! 🙂
But right now we have him until January so yeah I feel the closeness will be even more noticeable and we will be cramming in memories to hold us over until he completes basic training and we get to see him again. The House of Mis-Fits is changing guys, so bear with me if I have some teary posts, okay?? It’s mixed emotions and I know Bryce has chosen the right path in life, and for that I am proud and happy for him.